Looks of life never lie
This is a question for our female readers: Have you ever been in a meeting of any kind where men were present and one of them couldn�t stop jiggling his leg? Irritating, isn�t it?
This, and many other mannerisms, is part of body language that tells a lot about us.
We all had mothers who told us to sit up straight, stop pulling our hair and look at them when they were talking. While we may have interpreted this as simple discipline, researchers now feel that the non-verbal clues we send out are just as important as what we say. And sometimes more so.
We all know the person in the workplace who walks with a spring in their step and smiles a lot. Not only are they more pleasant with which to associate, this behavior exudes confidence.
Want to be noticed at any gathering? Make eye contact, but don�t stare. Staring indicates that you are of a controlling nature. No eye contact at all? Folks will judge you as being untrustworthy or shifty.
This is one that I do all of the time: Cross my arms. In the past this was said to indicate an attitude of defensiveness. I disagreed with that. It was just comfortable. It seems now that enough of us are folding our arms that the interpretation has changed. Folded arms are now supposed to signal that you are filtering information carefully. A more positive analogy, but I still do it because it�s comfortable.
When speaking with anyone, especially your boss or spouse, be careful never to rub your eyes or your nose. Both of these are said to point to a possible untruth. So even if your eyes have something in them and your nose is screaming to be scratched, don�t do it. And never as a woman look at the ceiling while you are speaking. This is a definite sign of a lie.
Here�s my favorite: During conversation when a woman nods, she does so only to indicate that she is listening. Men, however, only nod if they agree with what is being said.
Now back to the guy with the inability to keep his legs still. Researchers say there is really no hidden meaning to this. Men may just have more energy to burn off than women or it may just be because they are not as socially at ease.
So ladies, the next time that you are in a heated discussion with your spouse or significant other, be sure not to look at the ceiling, don�t rub your eyes or scratch your nose and nod when he is talking so that he knows you are listening.
And do your best to ignore his jittery legs, his head that isn�t moving unless you by chance say something with which he agrees.
One last hint. If he starts staring at the floor, there�s a problem with what he�s saying. While we look at the ceiling when fudging the truth, men look at the floor. Never mind that your argument is about the huge stain on the carpet he made when he came in from mowing and didn�t remove his shoes. Looking at the floor is a sure sign that the stain isn�t from grass as you�ve indicated and he�s concurred. But then, maybe he�s just staring at where you are, so vehemently, pointing.
Ever wonder why everything we do has a hidden meaning? But that�s another column gathered from more fodder from experts.
Can we all say job justification?
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